According to studies conducted by people in lab coats, women expect eye contact when they're talking to people. Women think making eye contact means the person is listening intently on their every word. Men rarely look at each other when they talk. I don't know if there's really a reason. I think that's just how they talk-- more casually. I fall under the "Eye contact freaks me out" category.
Different genders respond to problems a lot differently too. When females want to talk about a problem that has arises, they expect a lot of support from their friends. They want agreement, reassurance and understanding. However, males assure each other by telling one another that its not really a big deal, and it could be worse. If a female got that response from someone they would assume they didn't care about them. Men like this response because then they realize their problems aren't so bad. See, I always feel like the worse friend ever because I can never be supportive or comforting. I always think, it could be worse, or why does everybody always have to dramatize every little thing that happens in their lives. When I encounter a problem, I usually think up the worse case scenario. Then, I am comforted by the fact that I'm alive, breathing and have the best brain anyone ever had.
There was a lot of other really interesting things in her essay. Those two stuck out to me because it helps me see where my social awkwardness comes from. When people tell me they have a problem I say, "Well, I don't know what to tell you," which probably isn't any better then saying, "It could be worse" and making them feel insignificant. But, that's all I got.
Don't make eye contact with me,
GroovyBandGeek
